The resource that limits us all the same is time. We only
have so much available time to do the things we want to do and we must do.
In today’s multi-faceted lives, there are many demands for
our time: work, career, family, and all the necessities of life. So often, it
is only the time that is left over that we allow for the activities that make
us feel most alive and fulfilled.
It can feel as though there is so much we should do, so much
we want to do, but the time to do all of these things just slips through our
This longing to have more time is something I hear often
from riders, and a feeling I am very familiar with as well.
I believe we can acknowledge the limited resource of time and make conscious choices about how to spend our time, freeing ourselves from the frustration of “never enough.”
Many people are familiar with the concept of priorities, but
very few people take the time to fully apply this concept in their own lives.
When we become clear about what matters most now, we can
give it the time it deserves, and allow ourselves a reprieve from wishing
everything could happen now. Life is always shifting and changing, and we can
rest with knowing that we can make the decision to change our priorities in the
Priorities matter to riders whether or not riding is a top
priority for you and being clear on your priorities makes the daily decisions
of how to spend your time easier.
Here is an example, if you decide that riding and time with
your horse is a higher priority than a clean house, when Friday afternoon comes
around and you have a choice between tidying your home for the weekend or heading
to the barn, the decision to grab your keys and go see your horse becomes the easy
On the contrary, perhaps you know that having a clean and
tidy home lowers your stress and is very important for you, then the same
decision is again made easier. You grab the duster and mop and only go to the
barn if there is time left over.
When someone consciously chooses their priorities, there is
not a wrong choice. What matters more to one person is not right or wrong, it
is simply their choice.
When priorities are not chosen, and decisions are made on
the whim of the moment, then regret often sets in. For example, spending an
extra three hours on the job doing busy work and then getting home too late for
barn or family time. Or cancelling a lesson to go to a meeting for a volunteer
event committee that you care nothing about but for some reason volunteered for
If work or the volunteer event were high priorities these
choices would be satisfying and aligned. But with no priorities in place, decisions
like these are often made by pressure from others (volunteer event) or simple ease
and inertia (easier to stay at work doing random tasks than go riding, which
may require more physical and mental challenge).
So how do you choose your priorities? We will go through a
simple exercise to get started. First take out a piece of paper and write down
everything you are currently doing or want to do in life. This list may include
things such as: career, fitness, spend time with kids, learning photography, working
in the garden, volunteering at animal shelter, applying to schools for further
Take the time to write down as many things that come to mind
for you. When you have your list, go back through and pick the top 5 activities
that matter the most to you now. Rank them 1-5, most to least important.
Each time you have a decision about how to spend your time,
think about the options and ask yourself – “which of these supports my highest
Know that you can come back to this list and revise your
priorities as often as you wish, and they will naturally shift as life changes.
Being clear on what matters most to you now will make
decisions easier and free you from the frustration of feeling as though
everything must be done at once.
Watch the video below for ideas on how to decide if riding
is a top priority for you right now.
After the video, leave a comment below and share your thoughts!
See you in the comments,
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